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Shoulda Woulda Coulda

I’m liking these recent daily prompts, they couldn’t have come at a better time. Today’s Daily Prompt: Tell us about something you know you should do . . . but don’t.

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In the world of blogging, especially fashion blogging, there exist guidelines that tell us what we should blog about to get readers. Websites like IFB are constantly telling us what to do and how to do it and what we’re doing wrong to help us raise our number of readers while monetizing our blogs in various ways.

I appreciate IFB a lot, I practically check it out everyday. But there are things that I just don’t want to blog about. As I wrote up top, this couldn’t have come at a better time, since fashion week (Fashion month is more like it) is here. This is the time where almost every fashion blogger, whether they’re in New York City or in Boise, Idaho is blogging about the fashion shows. Reports on their favorite collections, predicting the upcoming trends, their top street style favorites, blah blah blah. Also, the Twitter feeds get impregnated with #nyfw tweets. Everyone is tweeting and sharing THE EXACT SAME THING from terrible Instagram pictures to tweets about photographers singing Happy Birthday in the photo pit.

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We know you’re there and personally I’m happy for you, but is it absolutely necessary to share EVERY LITTLE DETAIL about everything? Fashion bloggers have a problem that journalists don’t (other than not writing very well): they have no editors. No one is telling them to cut the crap. And we as followers have to suffer for it. This isn’t just noob “like, follow me and I’ll follow you back PLEASE!” bloggers, top tier full time bloggers that make a ton of money are guilty of this too. Just like they’re guilty of faking their swag sometimes, but that’s another story (and it’s old already so I’m not jumping on it).

So because of all of this, I’m not blogging about fashion week. I SHOULD, I COULD, I WOULD, BUT I DON’T AND WON’T AND “SHON’T”. It’s not worth it. I feel that by not blogging about this I’m being more of an individual(?) *laughs* and breaking away from the “All blogs post the same stuff” idea that most people have of fashion blogging. It’s the kind of crap you notice when everyone and their mother is writing about Prabal Gurung for Target.


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The same goes for award shows and the red carpets. I don’t mind watching award shows, except the Grammys which I hate with a passion. But why should I make a best and worst dressed list when EVERYONE is doing the exact same thing and there’s a 99.9% chance that EVERYONE will have the exact same people on their list. This is the type of crap that makes me want to poke my eyes out.


…show me anymore of this!

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I remember when the blog was still very young and I was a naive, very young adult looking for people to read my crap. I collaborated with Revista Icon for some Facebook notes about fashion week and red carpets for certain award ceremonies. Red carpet best dressed lists are easy to make due to what I wrote in the paragraph above. For the Fashion Week notes I liked to focus on small designers since everyone has their eye on the big names and brands. We all know that brands like Marc Jacobs and Proenza Schouler can do no wrong, for now, so why continue to brown nose when there are young designers with fresh ideas out there waiting for something to happen or for someone to care.

It’s frustrating when someone doesn’t read the “This list will focus on small designers instead of established ones” on the top of the Facebook note and comments: “(Designers that are established but not on the list) had the best collection”. What I would have loved to reply: “I KNOW their collection was great and so does the rest of the world so congrats on being  part of it!” What I actually wrote: “Yes, but this list is trying to focus on small, unknown designers that also do great things”.

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So there’s my answer, people that post Daily Prompts and you, person or robot that reads my blog. I’m sure there are things that you should do but don’t, you can share them on the comments below, if you want.

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